Skirts At War: Beyond Divorced Mom/Stepmom Conflict

Many divorced moms and stepmoms feel doomed to a lifetime of power struggles when the other household is indifferent or openly hostile. Skirts at War is a reassuring and playful hands-on guide to thriving as a stepparent, remarried mom or single parent, even if the other side won't meet you halfway. Learn how to master the most common challenges vexing divorce-connected families today:

Instincts - why they're working against you and what to do instead
Support - how to sidestep well-meaning, but sabotaging advice and tune into truth-telling wisdom
Men - how fathers see our interconnected roles, in the words of a man in the middle himself
Expectations - why your “reasonable” assumptions set you up for disappointment and resentment
Self-Worth - why old issues from your past are easily triggered and how to desensitize them
Boundaries - how to transfer responsibilities to the right shoulders and stop overdoing

Divided into three user-friendly sections for quick reference: Problems, Power Tools and Making Progress, it also includes:
* over 100 comments from community members, eager to share their hard-won insights
* 20 interactive quizzes, assessments and how-tos
* 60 journal questions designed to easily move you forward
* over 100 affirming mantras to ground and center you
* a chapter by Mario Korf written directly to divorced fathers
* how to join our online community for free PDFs and exclusive material, connect with new friends reading the book and create your own private blog or journal


"Through personal accountability, Skirts at War shows parents and stepparents how to restore a sense of belonging and significance to their children and stepchildren. A hopeful, upbeat guide. Highly recommended!"
- Amy McCready, The Today Show parenting contributor, author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time..., Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, Inc.

"I wish this book had been around 14 years ago when I first met my stepchildren-to-be and their mother. Just like no one can prepare you for the birth of your first child, there is no way to prepare for the acquisition of a family in progress (or what I like to call, Love and Landmines). Skirts at War puts you at ease and quiets the guilty mommy mind by assuring the reader: what you are about to undertake goes against natural law—so really, you're already a superhero just by virtue of opening your heart to these relationships. What a beautifully strong and positive place to begin what may be the most challenging and gratifying part of your journey."
- Gina Torres, actress, mom and stepmom

This must-read book contains the wisdom of both the authors and a thriving community of moms and stepmoms.
- Peggy Nolan, Owner & Founder, The Stepmom’s Toolbox